My Mother's Too Much Affection/Love. (A big mistake)

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              Image of a mother's affection. 
   
     Mother's love/Affection is truly incomparable. It's the purest form of affection. Parental love enhances the wellbeing and development of children. Science supports the idea that warmth and affection expressed by parents to their children results in life long positive outcome for those children. 
          On the other hand, children who do not have affectionate parents tend to have lower self-esteem and to feel more alienated, hostile, aggressive and anti-social. 
     But my mother's too much affection to her children hampered me to build a bright career.

     I am Kamal, 35 years old. We are two brothers. I am younger, my mother loves me more than my elder brother. I am 5 feet 8 inches in height and physically fit. I used to play football. After getting promotion in class XII, I got a chance in hotel management course in outside Tripura, the North Eastern state of India. I wanted to go there. But my mother prevented me to go outside Tripura. I  didn't want to stay away from my parents but I loved to visit new places. And I was eager to study outside. But my mother did not want to send me outside our state. I sacrificed my happiness for my mother.

      When I was in college, my friends proposed me to take part in an  Indian army recruitment rally. Without informing my parents, I along with my four friends went there and took part in a rally. I could clear all the tests as I was physically fit. And I was selected. My friend Bikash also got the selection. But unfortunately, my other three friends could not clear the tests and do not get the selection. After one and half months we both got a job offer.
      Again my mother did not allow me to join the Indian army. She didn't want me to stay away from her. My father did not say anything. My mother always took the decision. But my friend Bikash accepted the job and joined the Indian army. Our neighbours criticised me by saying that "others people did not get the selection and you do not want to go there after getting selection". My mother said, "No problem, as long as I live, my children will not die of hunger. My heart do not want to send my son away from me". I had to respect my mother's decision.

      Then I completed my graduation with poor marks and without honours degree. There were many graduate unemployed men in our village. To get a government job was very tough. I wrote civil service examination 4/5 times but due to lack of knowledge in English and GK/current affairs, every time I was rejected. I had faced many interviews of clerks, banks, in fishery dept. Forest Dept. etc. But I did not get a job. Because the government gave priority to the needy families and having good marks candidates. My elder brother is doing a job and we have some plots of land. And my marks are not good enough to compete with others. So I lost hope to get a job.

     Without a job, I got married. My elder brother purchased an Auto-rickshaw for me. Now I am an Auto-rickshaw driver.

     My friend  Bikash who joined the Indian army built a two storey beautiful house. 
  
    Now I realised that mother's love is incomparable but too much of her love turned my career.
 Yet I love my mother and I can sacrifice my life for my mother. And I am absolutely happy. Questions paper is different for each and every people in our life.  I have read that unconditional love and affection from a parent can make children emotionally happier and less anxious. This happens because their brain actually changes as a result of affection.
On the other hand, the negative impact of childhood abuse and lack of affection impacts children both mentally and physically. This can lead to all kinds of health and emotional problems throughout their lives. What's really fascinating is that scientists think parental affection can actually protect individuals against the harmful effects of childhood stress.
                    Image of a mother's love

      A study out of the University of Notre Dame showed that children who receive affection from their parents were happier as adults. More than 600 adults were surveyed about how they were raised, including how much physical affection they had.
    The adults who reported receiving more affection in childhood displayed less depression and anxiety and were more compassionate overall. Those who reported less affection struggled with mental health, tended to be more upset in social situations, and were less able to relate to other people's perspectives.
     Researchers have also studied the benefits of skin-to-skin contact for infants.
This special interaction between mother and baby, in particular, helps calm babies so they cry less and sleep more. It has also been shown to boost brain development. According to an article in Scientific 
American, children who lived in a deprived environment like an orphanage had higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol than those who lived with their parents. Scientists believe that the lack of physical contact in the orphanages is a major factor in these physical changes.

     Starting in infancy, a parent can begin to massage their child, which can create a strong bond. Studies have shown children and adults who receive massage experience less anxiety during academic stress, hospital stays, and other stressful events.

Because of my mother's too much affection, I did not get a job.

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